Offended: Is Being Offended A Choice? I don't have my parents. Being 'offended' is not always a choice. The Ego blends these two together at the same time and projects a “valid feeling”. Kenna is funny. It's a shame every social issue nowadays involving race or different cultures are perceived to be unarguably offensive. Either you will be more offended by his words, or a little light-bulb will go off in your mind and you will instantly think of how useless being offended is.And since being offended easily is a choice, YOU are the one who holds the power to stop being offended. To be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us.” — David A. Bednar 2. I've encountered my fair share of discrimination but I have never felt 'offended' in any way. Stream Being Offended Is A Choice by jolly dee from desktop or your mobile device Archived. It’s allowing someone or something else to control the way you feel. Yes 2. Someone does or says something that is offensive. Why/Why not? These are all things that are within your control. Why/Why not? So what has happened right now is that I am oddly more personally hopeful. By Oliver JR Cooper | Submitted On April 29, 2016. Today, we live in an over-sensitive, over-complaining, over-politically correct world where at any given time, some person or group is offended by something happening, usually not even directly related to them. What Does 'Offended' Mean? Kenna is a stay at home Mommy. 0 0. This. Being Offended is a Choice For over a year now I've been writing a monthly article for the Town Talk's Guest Pastor column. Is it a choice? It’s an “It’s them, not me” way of thinking. Offended. When we make a choice, the tendency is to follow the path of least resistance. Being offended is a choice. Being offended isn't a mark of virtue - it's a sign that you're a crybaby who will throw a tantrum if you can't get your way. It’s giving away your power. Member 705 posts Posted 06 March 2018 - 07:10 AM (Edited by soman, 06 March 2018 - 07:12 AM.) Even though we are different, we are friends. “Elder Bednar said that being offended by what people say to us is a choice. We are not talking here about someone stabbing your or stealing your wife. That's not a logical conclusion. 49 comments. The Law of the Garbage Truck. This could relate to what has taken place in the real world, as well as what has occurred online. Do you allow people to offend you? Typically it runs on the first Sunday of the month, but this month the first Sunday was also the first day of the month and I didn't get it to them in time to run so it ran on the 2nd Sunday, today, October 8. He teaches how some people are like garbage trucks. You may be able to train your stomach muscles so that you are immune to my punches. What good do any of these reactions do? This thread is archived. And from that you conclude that being offended is a choice. Kenna adopted her baby. And through feeling this way, they can come to the conclusion that they have been harmed (just as they would if they were verbally or physically abused). But at least I owned up to it! 2 years ago. Back to top #22 soman soman. Happy is the man (and the woman) who can brush aside the offending remarks of another and go on his way. Being offended is a choice. Nope." I try to be funny. Being offended is a choice May 07, 2018 at 3:03 PM In response to the Jonah Goldberg opinion piece " Cultural-appropriation outrage shows people are desperate to be offended … Being offended is a choice. being offended is a choice. Asking people of faith to not use these is telling them to hide their faith. If you're offended by an expression of goodwill that's a you problem. The problems involved with the questions belong to the questioner.” “Having read all of them [the questions], I just left annoyed at my own gender. Just so you’ll know where I stand 1. Do you think being offended is choice? 1 decade ago. Kenna has awesome parents. Now, this is not going to be the same as being verbally abused; what it will come down to is that one will hear something and they will feel hurt or upset, among other things. I didn't adopt my babies. Senior Idol. Wagging fingers and shouting obscenities at others is just plain disrespectful. It’s becoming a victim of other people’s choices, many times when they don’t even mean to offend you. There is an old quote by Eleanor Roosevelt that says, Which when then feels needs to be accepted by others and responded to appropriately. We can’t stop the inconsiderate, rude, offensive acts of others. I am a working Mommy. Posted by. And through feeling this way, they can come to the conclusion that they have been harmed (just as they would if they were verbally or physically abused). Now, this is not going to be the same as being verbally abused; what it will come down to is that one will hear something and they will feel hurt or upset, among other things. Even if there was an explicitly laid out program for improving one's emotional self-control that worked exactly the same for everyone, that still wouldn't make being offended a choice. Guilty I know, I know....a little hypocritical. If one was to think about the kinds of experiences that they have had so far this year, they may find that there have been a number of moments that have had a negative effect on their life. Choice, Condition, Else, Imposed, Inflicted, Make, Offended, Someone, Something, Something Else, Us Quotes to Explore The most terrifying words in the English language are: I'm … What happens when you get offended? You might not do any of those things though. Curiosity opens the possibility for dialogue and transformation.” And also this morning I have heard the thought about curiosity differently to ever before.. Kenna could be offended because I can get pregnant, and I complain to her about how much I hate being pregnant. It doesn't follow. Being offended is a choice like any other. However, being 'offensive' is always a choice, regardless of whether or not it is acceptable to the 'offensive' person or group. The overwhelming response was, yes, it is a choice. Adults should be able to think for themselves and peacefully discuss their priorities. Feeling offended or hurt by speech is a matter of choice because no one is responsible for our issues but ourselves. But this is a false construct. 55% Upvoted. We’d still be British if your attitude had prevailed in the American Revolution. It's not about being submissive or passive against the so called privileged but whether you constantly see yourself as a victim or not is a personal choice. Do you think being offended is choice? It isn’t up to other people to stop you from being offended. My sensibility can be 'offended' without ever effecting my feelings. Being offended is a choice and a choice with very few pros. Unfortunately I do (by choice of course) 3. u/RagingRambo. Its a choice, that is the followed by an emotion. “Instead of being offended or insulted, I’m advocating for being curious. 'You don't know what it's like to be ____ so you have zero right to talk about this issue!' Close. You might get mad and fight someone, you might cry or even commit an act of violence against yourself or another. Daily reminder ... two very different nonprofits -more information about each found below and at websites. David Pollay discovered this concept. According to dictionary.com, the word offend is defined as: Verb (used with object) To irritate, annoy, or anger; cause resentful displeasure in. Being stupid is a choice too. That is not a choice but a condition. Anonymous . Read More. You might just hold a grudge. The other I asked you if being offended was a choice. "Being offended is a choice. If someone wishes me Happy Hanukkah or Ramadan I just say thanks as it's said with good intentions. “People get addicted to feeling offended all the time because it gives them a high; being self-righteous and morally superior feels good.” ― Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life There is nothing that forces you to take offence other than your own moral standards, sense of righteousness and ego or self-image. Truthfully, being offended is a choice we make. This part of this article is directed at the people who think taking a knee is disrespecting the military or our country. 3. Offended. Being offended is not a feeling. Getting offended is a choice, and outrage is the fire of our own offence that we feed into an inferno. share. Have you ever reported someone for offenses here? 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